Out of Despair – a story of a wintery trip to a snowy beach

Out of Despair – a story of a wintery trip to a snowy beach

The story is written in poetic verse, which is perhaps the easiest way to express emotions that are too intense to convey in normal language. I’m going through a difficult time as I prepare to make a monumental move, and I have to discard or abandon a lot of my belongings. Our belongings. This process has forced me to go through them all in detail, it has opened a Pandora’s box of memories. These are not just my memories: these are our memories.

Last summer and autumn, I often escaped to the beaches for days at a time to get away from reality. But now, with the sorting of our things, that heavy feeling of despair has returned. Despite the cold wind, light snow, and rain I had to return to the beaches. I had to try to find you again for a moment, if for a moment only. It seemed that by doing that I wanted to overcome the feeling of drowning. On this trip I kept imagining a theater stage and Shakespeare’s Richard III. Richard III with his desperate plea for a horse, his bargain with the Fates.

The phantoms of despair are everywhere. 

Six, I think that I slayed. But not the one I needed.

A horse, a horse! My kingdom for a horse! I yelled, I begged!

as in a story said by English bard long time ago,

per chance, of dying Plantagenet with a blow to his head.   

My kingdom for a horse! I yelled in powerless furry

 at the ice-cold waves of roaring sea on Eastern shores.

I screamed, I raised my fists, and stomped my feet.

And words were taken by a wind

and silenced by another wall of deep.  

I cried out in pain falling to my knees,

beaten down, with no sword, no horse.

and no shield – ‘just once’ – I whispered

with no sound leaving my lips – ‘for a moment

let me see his face again, let me tell him

without words that I do and always will’.

And then, resigned I turned away from the sea

and saw in front, in a fair distance,

on the crest of the sand dunes – human shape,

familiar form, protected by warm, thick cape.

I wanted to run toward him – but couldn’t move;

wanted to scream – but no sound left my lips.

And yet – I heard his words as clear as daylight:

I know you do and I do love you, too.

I have no kingdom and no need for a horse anymore.

No need for heavy swords and glory in the battles.

That chilly day on a windy and snowy beach,

with cold stabbing your bones as battleaxes –

that instance becomes as warm as paradise.

I went back home with a smile and a head held high.

(by B. Pacak-Gamalski)

Just an ordinary visit to My Rocks

Couldn’t get to my planned walk in Shannon’s Park in Dartmouth – a big padlock on the gate with an info “no winter maintenance’. Winter maintenance? Someone at the City Hall sleeps longer than the bears, obviously. I saw far away a gay walking with a dog and a beautiful deer hopping happily. Look around and noticed some of the fences were not too high. But there were other cars parked nearby and didn’t want to give them a bad impression – which obviously is a sign that I am getting old, LOL.

Walked around a bit and went back home. By early evening, just about as the sun started to get ready to slowly go to bed – I went on My Rocks. Thanks god no administration ever does any maintenance there – summertime or wintertime. It wasn’t a spectacular sunset. But it was very pleasant, soft. Observed a lot of waterfowl. Only once the sun get bored with his own nightshow and gave a spectacular solo. What a primadonna! LOL

A case for (very) long poem – ‘The Iovis Trilogy’

What do you think of poets? Ephemeral creatures? A poet must be someone, who lacks persistence and discipline to write a solid novel? Let’s say five hundred pages long?  Yes, you have seen, perhaps have one on your shelf big book by some poet you like. It is hundreds of pages long.  Good. But such a book most often is an editor’s work of compiling, in some sort of order, hundreds of separate poems written throughout a lifetime. Generally speaking, a poet publishes a book  (in modern times) that would be 20, 30, or maybe 50 pages long.

The times of huge volumes of Goethe, Mickiewicz, Byron, Pushkin or Chaucer are gone. Their work is generally called by a broad definition a ‘long poem’.  They are still being composed by some – but hardly to the extent of times gone.  Imagine one of the oldest known long poem by Abul-Qâsem Ferdowsi Tusi, a Persian poet in the X century, who wrote “ Shahnameh” – a poem of 50,000 couplets (two-lined rhymed meter).  It is the longest ever written by a single poet in recorded history.

It is not only a strong talent but also a sign of unusual perseverance. Not very common in the XX and XXI centuries.

But – what is difficult for a mere man-poet doesn’t have to be too difficult a task for a woman-poet (women are generally much better in keeping their focus on goal than menfolk, LOL).

On a recent visit to a favored literary café in Halifax, I came across a huge volume of such long poem. The medium is mixed: regular-versed poetry and poetic prose verse. But all in the context of the same subject and telling the same epic (if ‘epic’ is the right term for such a subject) story.  It is merely a booklet of … 1009 pages (one thousand nine).  And the poetess devotes her talent to tell the story of … man.

I am talking of Anne Waldman. Waldman was (with Allen Ginsberg) a pivotal author and activist of the Beatniks movement in culture and counterculture of the 60. and 70s. In a way – a child of the Greenwich Village community of New York at a time of pivotal struggle with the Establishment.  How many times have I longed to be there at that time! But a generational difference made it impossible.

Poets and artists who devote their talent to a cause that is larger than life give me wings to fly. I feel sorry for poets of ‘ivory towers’ or Parnassus’ peak.  Their own glory and fear of missing the bus to immortality make me laugh.

Back to Waldman long poem, though. To “The Iovis Trilogy. Colours in Mechanism of Concealment”[i]. She spent twenty-five years writing it. That is perseverance, I must say.

Iovis is of course the epitome of Man. He is, formally speaking, an early Roman central god, an equivalent to Greek Zeus. The one, who looks after the order of humans. And the world of humans is the world of man. Period.  Even lesser goddesses do not change that paradigm, that foundation.

Waldman does not detest men, a man is not her mortal enemy. She tries to show him that she sees his ways of trapping her-woman, of claiming her as his. A thing on the mantel. Necessary, needed. But never fully equal. Iovis is so set in his ways, that he might not even realize it anymore, he might not see the ways, the channels, roads that he built over thousands of years. They just are, aren’t they? A natural order of things:  as trees, streams, mountains, and plains.

Right at the very beginning, she addresses him directly:

Dear Iovis:

Thinking about you: other in you & the way

You are sprawling male world today

You are also the crisp light another day

You are the plan, which will become clearer with a

                strong border as you are the guest, the student

You are the target

You are the border you are sometimes the map

You are in the car of love

You are never the enemy dull & flat, dissolving in the sea

Illusion lay it snare, you resort to bait, to tackle me

Our day is gone[ii]

Waldman states her case right at the beginning: I have a clear picture of you and your tribe – meaning the whole tribe of men – ‘you are in the car of love’.  He lays bait and snare to make her-women his. To make her love him. It doesn’t change a bit any of these ancient roles, a fact that he too loves her truly. But it is her, that will become his – not the other way around. And she says flatly: our day is gone.

She admits the history of them, the ancient times going back to Sanscrit writings and dwellings:

As I say this to you, the furniture is rearranged in a sacred text

The room is now long, the room is tall, the room is male[iii]

It isn’t only the imagery of the past going to the beginnings of recorded history – the poet brings a throng of marching dead lovers, the ones that show themselves on ‘All Hallows Eve’.

It is a monumental poetic work.  And, at the same time – it is very contemporary poetry. This comes as a surprise since the author submerges the reader in a tremendous history of humankind and human relations. Especially the love-friendship relations of men and women. She goes back to the origins of patriarchate, and uses Buddhist teachings to explain it, to uncover the lost or true meaning of that history. But it is a result of her actual time. Her time in that particular moment in Greenwich Village in New York and all that was going on at that time. Therefore the poem is also a political call ‘to arms’. To rearrange the furniture, if you will, of contemporary discourse and intersex relations.  The man is not portrayed all the time as ‘an enemy’, ‘enslaver’. He too is being enslaved by his own actions. By the world of misogyny. Her long poem is sometimes compared to Ezra Pound or even to Dante’s immortal ‘Divine Comedy’ and William Blake prophetic books. I certainly would never go as far. Dante’s work is by any account a work of true genius and incomparable to her work. But, on the other hand, I have found her poem much better written and arranged than Blake’s strange and difficult-to-follow volumes.  It is not an example of a literary ‘testament of time’.  Indeed, it is very contemporary. Interesting to read – but I doubt very seriously that it will be red 50 years later or centuries later (as is still the case of “Divine Comedy”).

In the middle of her work, Waldman admits certain resignation, the impossibility of escaping raw emotions, raw needs, and desires:

                and the point along heart meridian

dissolves further down

legs already given out

je suis fatigue

Auto da Fé[iv]

Conflict, fighting for change is tiring, perhaps exhausting (je sui fatigue).   The moment she does it – she performs a spiritual act of auto da fe, as Voltaire’s Candid. And an act of faith paid by violent death in the flames. Iovis explains that such an act is a:

trance- fire

Came trough

trance Atlantic

to breath the l’air prehistorique[v]

It is important to notice the play of the words ‘trance Atlantic’ versus ‘trans Atlantic’. I will state again that in her poem, in the interconnectivity of her-woman with Iovis – everything is in a trance. Should I try to remind you of the contemporary context again? Who was not in some sort of trance in Greenwich Village by the end of the sixties? Certainly not many people among the artistic crowd.

I must say that I found the entire long poem amusing and interesting to read. Both by her poetic skill but mainly as a testament to the time of cultural counterrevolution in America. But my interest vanned somewhat halfway through the book. By page 350 I couldn’t go anymore. Went straight to the last chapter (which was very personal and interesting). If you have the time – I would happily suggest reaching for that volume. It is a good temporary poetry and an excellent example of that particular time in American literature.

And I do hope that Iovis has learned a good lesson and is a better man now. As a partner of her-woman. Not his-woman.


[i] Coffee House Press, 2011. Minneapolis; ISBN 9781566892551

[ii] ibid; p.17

[iii] ibid

[iv] ibid; p.257

[v] ibid; p.258

Niezakończone rozmowy z Tobą – Our Talks non-ending

Niezakończone rozmowy z Tobą – Our Talks non-ending

Pojechałem dziś do ciebie. Nie wiem nawet, nie pamiętam czy pierwszy raz w tym roku? Kartki z kalendarza pogubiłem już dawno. Nie wiem nawet gdzie,  czy na plaży jakiejś, do których uciekałem cały rok szukając cię? Może w tym forcie  w Lower East Chezzetcook, forcie który z uporem budowałem odgradzając go kamieniami od fal i odgrodzonym małą zatoką z silnymi prądami wody od głównej plaży. Nikt tam prawie nie docierał nigdy, bo przypływ nagły mógł powrót uczynić bardzo karkołomnym. Więc była to jakby moja pustelnia, moje królestwo, gdzie spędzałem godziny. Czasem mogłem wrócić idąc, czasem musiałem wracać płynąc, jedną ręką trzymając w górze plecak z kamerą i zeszytem w którym spisywałem nasze rozmowy.

Straciłem dom, straciłem przystań, zgubiłem kotwicę. Moja łódź błąka się rzucana w różne strony świata falami dwóch oceanów: Wielkiego, zwanego ironicznie ‘Spokojnym’ i zimnego Północnego Atlantyku. Szukam wyspy, którą mógłbym nazwać ‘Nasza’. Nasza Wyspa nie jest wielka, raczej mała. Jak ta z przygód Robinsona Cruzoe i Piętaszka ma tylko dwóch mieszkańców. Wieczorami spotykam cię siedzącego na skałach ze wzrokiem zanurzonym w głębinach oceanu. Podchodzę i kładę rękę na twoim ramieniu. Odwracasz powoli swoją twarz ku mojej. Masz w oczach i na ustach spokojny, słodki uśmiech zadowolenia. Podaje ci rękę i pomagam zejść z kamieni. Kładziemy się na ciepłym piasku dzikiej plaży i patrzymy w niebo. Leżymy tak długo, aż nadejdzie noc i niebo zapala nad nami lampy gwiazd. Wskazujesz palcem najjaśniejszą i pytasz: Widzisz? To nasz gwiazda. Nazywa się Miłość. I zawsze będzie nam świecić, do końca wszystkich dni, do czasu gdy wyparujemy atomami kosmicznego pyłu i popędzimy obracać się po jej orbicie. Czy to nie piękne?

Biorę w swoją dłoń twoją i całuję ją długo. Odpowiadam: tak, to jest piękne. I odpływam w sen czekając na ten moment. Moment odlotu z Naszej Wyspy do Naszej Gwiazdy. Do domu.

Comes the day next. It is almost as if it was yesterday, yesteryear, forever. Our stars, our Cosmos came home to the dancing light of the sun in the waters of our ocean, right at the doorway of our home. And I walk to My Rocks on the shores and see them: the light of the dark sky of night, and the stars diving to the bottom of the sea with the dawn of day.

Seating on Our Rocks, on the edge of the water, I can see them sending shots of light from the dark bottom to the surface. They are there, singing our song with the sirens. They are tending to the Gardens of Coral, of swarms of dancing little fish, of translucent figurines of ancient sea creatures: the squids, the funny shrimps, and seahorses. All following the long pathway of Eurydice and Orpheus.

Our star, our island is there, too. The sky and the ocean are the same: the stardust of nebulas.

And suddenly I know it all. I’m certain that if I get up from My Rocks now and go home – you will be there as always: sitting on the sofa. You will look at me opening the door and you will say: finally you are back from your silly stars and ocean’s bottom. Sit here, next to me, and I will make us a cup of good coffee. We will watch that movie you wanted us to see.

I’m sure that’s what will happen when I go back home. I’m certain of it but also frozen in fear that I might be wrong. That you might not be there. But I will. I will go, open the door, sit on the sofa, and wait for the cup of good coffee. No one makes such a perfect cup of coffee, as you do.  

Walk with my Eurydice

Walk with my Eurydice

Every day starts with waking, and getting up from bed. Doesn’t matter if it is noon or 5 in the morning. Time is a very subjective thing. On days I don’t have to go to work (most of the time, since I officially stopped working for any company more than six years ago) and don’t have any appointments – I don’t look at watches or clocks. I do things when it is time to do these things, without assigning any number to that time.

Besides, time has stopped for me in November 2022. On the first night (was it night?) I fell asleep after You were gone. I wish I had not woken up. Waking up after that very first sleep is a daily routine of terror. The few seconds before you are certain that it is reality, that you are awake. When I am forced again to know that You are gone. Not to the kitchen to make us a fresh morning coffee, which you did every morning religiously for more than three decades. No – You are GONE. I have to go through that terror every single day while getting up. For 467 days, as of today.

Sometimes, just before I finally drift off to sleep, I wish, I pray, that it is the last time. That I don’t have to wake up again.

When I sleep I often meet You and talk to You. I think, sometimes I make love to You. That we are watching TV or go for a drive in the countryside.

You are my Eurydice, for whom I went to Hades to plead, to argue with the God of the Underworld, that he made a mistake. I beg him, I threaten him. I offer him love and hatred, devotion and disdain. To no avail – he is unmoved. In my dream, I write a poem to You in Italian. When I get up from my sleep I remember that poem and copy it, surprised that I retained more of my old Italian than I thought.

Dove sei, Euridice?

Dove sei, Amore mio?

Mostrati e parlami d’amore.

Ricordare! Non fermata

e non guardare indietro.

Ricorda, mio caro …

ricorda, ricor… , ri…

e piango, perché so

che ti volterai.

Ogni volta.

Today I stopped in a little park De Volf in Bedford. We used to go there many times and both liked it. It is a small park but there is something sweet and romantic about it. It offers a nice view of Halifax, our bridges, and Dartmouth.  Next to it is a big building of the company that you worked for – The Berkeley. You didn’t even have that much time to work for them, yet You did leave a special mark on the senior residents of that building and all the staff. Your innate goodness emanated from you as everywhere you worked before. I will never forget and still am moved to tears how they organized a special memory meeting for the residents and staff in their main hall. It was full of people. Wonderful people, who came to share their memories, and their sorrow and offer their support to me and Your siblings, who came for Your final journey.

It was a cold but amazingly sunny day. I really enjoyed the walk and reminiscing about our strolls there. For a short while You – my Eurydice – walked with me. You didn’t turn back, didn’t look back. You walked with me. Maybe I even felt Your hand in my hand.

I know that the terror of getting up will come back tomorrow. Then again, and again for the rest of my days. But the walk today was good. Thank You, Babcycake. Gracie, mia Euridice.

Anguish, the price of Love

The first panel of marble triptych by Hildreth Meiere representing The Pillars of Herakles (Centre for Hellenic Studies in Washington, DC)

Love is a strange thing, and the price you pay for it is enormous. But you pay. For a dream that is priceless. The higher is the heaven, the bliss of it – the higher is the cost. Have you known – would you have asked for it?

Let me tell you a story. There was a young man, who wandered the world from the high peaks to the deep valleys, and even deeper than the valleys. He went to the abyss of the underworld, the dark caves full of desires, hunger, and thirst. Long hands and longing eyes followed him there in the caves. The caves were like a labyrinth, one leading to the other. There, he saw a silhouette of a boy crying for love not found, for a dream not fulfilled yet. That silhouette, the shadow was – he knew it instantly – his own dream. A dream that did not want to be a dream anymore. It wanted to be born. To live. The young man heard the plea of this boy and the plea of his dream. He ran after the boy, grabbed his arm, and didn’t let go.  It is a long story re-told many a time. It was said that they lived happily ever after for a long time.

Like any long story, sometimes they are too long. People heard of the ending from others and never bothered to read it to the end themselves. But re-told stories change, and people soon forget where or from whom they heard it. They stopped reading it altogether, relying on the version they had heard from others. As the others relied on those, who told them. Over time the story changed, becoming a different one.

No one truly knew what happened to the young man, when he was not young anymore or what happened to the boy rescued from the cave.

I will tell you the story of the old man, who used to be that young man.

He doesn’t go to the caves, deep valleys, or mountaintops anymore.

The boy became his. He has answered his dream and the dream of the boy. They built a house on a treetop and watched the mountains weaving long shawls of rainbows flowing slowly to the valleys. Sometimes they would climb down from the treehouse and wander in the meadows below, drinking from streams, and singing with birds.

One day, after many years of happiness, the boy went further exploring the valley. The man followed him. They came upon a place where the stream enters a big river. The boy – a man by now himself – said: I will go for a swim in this river and jumped into it. He disappeared under the water and was not coming back to the surface. The man – an old man by now – jumped after him. He has found him ensnared in the long roots of the nenufars. He frantically ripped the snarls and brought the lifeless body to the surface. He tried for a very long time to push the boy’s life back into his lungs, and he screamed to the birds to help him. They came and tried with their wings and beaks to revive the boy. But, as the old man, they couldn’t. The boy was no longer.

From then on, the old man left the valley and wandered for eternity the earth. Looking for the boy, hoping that he appears somewhere. If, by miracle, he has found himself in the caves, why wouldn’t it be possible that he will find him again? His anguish was unbearable. Even the birds couldn’t sing when they flew by him. He came to the Edge of the World and asked the Big Water: why? The Big Water thought for a while and answered him with its own question: your sorrow has moved me, old man. I am Everything, the Past, and the Future. The Present has engulfed you in anguish beyond your strength. If the price of your past is too high to carry, I can grant you a gift seldom given to anyone.

The old man raised his eyes and trembling with timid hope, asked: O, Big Water, would you return my boy to me?

The Big Water answered: there is no return from not being. But I can change the Past, I can change the event that led you to the meeting of the boy. Ever. Thus the cause of the anguish will be gone. You can’t grieve something you have never had or known. That is the price.

The old man looked in horror and screamed at the Big Water: Would you, Everything, ever accept a deal to become Nothing? Your price is too high to pay. I will keep my sorrow and will walk with it till the end of my journey.      

I saw the old man when he turned away from Everything and started walking along the shores of The Edge of The World. With time he slowed down, yet he kept going. At a certain junction, the Edge of The World separated from the Big Water and became the Edge of Non-ending Abyss. There, the cliffs of the Edge were vertical like the Pillars of Heracles.  He knew that he reached the end of his journey. The old man sat and rested a bit looking down the massive cliffs where below a thick cover of white clouds was the invisible Abyss. His arms raised a bit with a sight and he slowly got up making a step toward the Edge. Then he froze for a moment, turned his head, and looked. He saw, far from the Edge, mountain peaks towering above deep green valleys and a forest with tall trees. He thought that he could hear the song of birds flying in the forest. A happy tear rolled down his cheek and a broad smile appeared on his face. And the old man was sure that for a moment he saw a boy waving toward him from one of the tree tops. The boy was singing the song of the birds and smiling at him. He called to the old man: don’t be afraid, come to me, I’ll wait for you!  

Did the old man jump the cliffs, you asked? I do not know. But he anguished no more.   

Fisherman’s Cove, the Sea and Sky

Fisherman’s Cove, the Sea and Sky

What do you do, when you can’t sleep? You go outside for a walk, in the snow and wind. At ten, then at midnight, then get a short snooze and go again at 4. It is not dark anyway, for the snow makes it all one milky, eerie light. Take another snooze and — it is morning the next day, LOL. Somehow you have a strong pain in your right temples and pain in your right ear. Stroke? You speak loudly and the words appear to be coherent and proper, go to the mirror and your eyelid and mouth don’t seem to be drooping, LOL. Then it must be just an ear infection. Dosn’t matter. What is the best for a cold? A cold excursion to the countryside! Camera in hand, a quick coffee, and off we go. Was able to catch even the Moon in full sunshine!

Calendarium of Heroes of Humanity in XX and XXI century

Mahatma Gandhi 1869 – 1948, Father of modern India. Promotor of equal rights for all people of India – regardless of their religious affiliation, Hindu or Muslim.

Martin Luther King 1929 – 1968, leader of the American Black movement for equal rights for all citizens, regardless of colour, race, and origin. Like Mahatma Gandhi represented nonviolent actions to achieve social and political changes. Assassinated.

Desmond Tutu 1931 – 2021, Anglican Archbishop of South Africa. Promotor and active supporter of the end of apartheid and equal rights for all citizens. Laureate of Nobel Peace Prize.

photo by M. Aleshkovskiy

Alexey Navalny 1976 – 2024, political and social activist in Russia. Advocate of democratic principles, free elections, separation of judicial and government branches. Unyielding supporter of human rights in Russia. Opponent of Russia’s invasion of Ukraine. Survived many attempts by the Russian state to assassinate him. Refused an offer of political, safe asylum in the West and returned to his homeland. Arrested shortly after returning. Murdered by Putin in the Russian Far East penal colony on February 16, 2024.

The Woods – how You led me out of them

The Woods – how You led me out of them

There are bad days. They come. I didn’t know that my emotional construction was still so fragile. Someone said something or wrote something to me, possibly in good intention – and everything fell down as a house of old rocks tumbling down in a cloud of dust. Cloud of dust and insecurities, despair. Everything I tried so hard to put together on my ocean beaches last summer – was taken away by a wave that came and washed it to the bottom of that ocean.  

One of the very first lines I wrote after You were gone, after I tried to find traces of You, of us, on some trail we used to walk together – and I couldn’t find You anymore – felt like that exactly: insecurity, lost. Maybe even angry – why am I here if you are not?

I have simply called these short lines: ‘Woods’. The woods I ventured in and got lost. Couldn’t find my way back. Last night and today it felt like that – to be back in these woods.

The Woods

I’m in the woods, surrounded by trees. The sun filters through the leaves, creating a dance of light and shadow. The breeze caresses the branches, making them sway gently. The air is fresh and warm, but not too hot. It’s a perfect day for a walk.

But I’m not here to enjoy the scenery. I’m here to find you. You ran away from me, and I don’t know why. You didn’t say a word, just took off into the forest. I followed you as fast as I could, but you were always ahead of me. I called your name, but you didn’t answer. You didn’t even look back.

The terrain is rough and uneven. The ground is covered with dead wood, roots, and rocks. I’m not as agile as I used to be. I’m not a young buck anymore, confident in my strength and speed. I stumble and fall, scraping my hands and knees. I get up and keep going, hoping to catch a glimpse of you.

But you are nowhere to be seen. You are hiding from me, or you have already gone too far. You are out of my sight and out of my reach. I don’t know where you are, or if you are safe. I don’t know what you are thinking, or what you are feeling. I don’t know if you still love me, or if you ever did.

 Maybe it wasn’t even an actual walk in the woods? Can’t remember anymore. Maybe it was a written record of one of my many nightmares, being half awake and half-asleep? Don’t know – there are days from these early times that are gone from my memory altogether, weeks like that. I know that they were, that I was there, too. Remember every detail, every second of You collapsing in my arms, the ambulances rushing to our home, every day and night in the hospital – and not much more after that. Just pieces of existence like a broken string of pearls rolling on the floor.

That’s that dark place I crumbled to last night and this morning. And You were not lost and gone, not hiding from me. You were right here and You guided me to a memory. The memory of a trip we took in 2016 to Alberta, our last trip to Alberta (apart from the huge trip across the continent to the shores of the Atlantic). We took a different route, a longer one, the one leading up North toward Valemount and through Highway 16 toward Jasper. But first, before reaching Jasper, one has to drive with the view of the massive, majestic Mount Robson. The highest mountain in the Canadian Rockies. Many, many years earlier I did a little climbing on this giant. Never reached the top, nor did I attempt to. Just wanted to do a bit of climbing on it and remember reaching some shelf-ledge on its steep wall, sitting on that ledge, and be amazed by the panoramic view in front.  In 2016 we reversed the roles, we were the ones at the bottom in some valley, and the huge giant was looking at us from high above.  It was amazing, the day was sunny, and practically there was no traffic. Remember embracing John and we both just admired the view.  It felt good. We both liked going back on many visits to Alberta, especially John. After all, it was his home, where he grew up, where he went to school, his adolescence … and us at the end. We met there, and fell in love. That memory of that trip lifted me from that awful pit I fell into again.